Permission to Dance: Trusting the Journey Without Fear

The other night, Jeff was cooking dinner at the outdoor griddle. I had finished up the sides and finally sat down to visit while he worked his magic. Before long, our youngest son, Breckin, joined us.

Dinner was late (as usual), and Breckin had already showered and slipped into pajamas — and where they came from, I have no idea. They were fitted, on the verge of too small, and yet there he stood, barefoot in the cool evening air, rocking them unapologetically.

Breckin stayed close to his dad, watching intently, trying to help where he could.

I sat back, feeling blessed just to observe them together — their easy interaction, the ordinary magic of a simple evening.

And then, without warning, Breckin broke into a little dance.

It wasn’t a performance. It wasn’t for attention.

It was pure joy — bubbling up so naturally that his body had to move. He had no fear of judgment, no hesitation about his too-small pajamas or bare feet. He was simply being.

When Did We Forget How to Dance?

It struck me deeply.

At what point do we, as adults, lose that?

At what point do we start gripping life so tightly that we forget to dance?

Learning to Let Go (Even When You Know Better)

If I’m being honest, I have a long history of gripping tightly.

I’ve spent over twenty years leading, mentoring, and coaching others.

I know the steps to growth. I know how to create a plan.

And yet — knowing isn’t the same as letting go.

Lately, I’ve been doing some internal work on myself.

Deep work.

Not just reading the books or listening to the podcasts — but actually doing the exercises. Writing things down. Sitting with discomfort. Being honest about the areas where I still hold fear, especially around old stories of scarcity and "not enough."

I realized that a lot of my drive — while it’s given me success — has also made life feel like a battle sometimes. I can force a result through sheer will and determination (thanks, Dad), but it doesn’t always feel good.

And honestly, I’m ready for something different.

"Sometimes the most important boundaries are the ones we set with ourselves."

Dancing Through Life: What I'm Practicing Now

Here’s what "dancing" looks like for me right now:

• Mindfulness practice: Just 15 minutes a day of breathwork and stillness.
• Intentional goals: Writing down my long-term goals each morning, allowing space for them to evolve and reveal what’s most important.
• Loosening my grip: When I feel myself holding on too tight, I breathe deeply and hand it over to Universal Intelligence.
• Trying mantras: Reminding myself that I am supported, that abundance is available, that life is happening for me, not to me.
• Looking for signs: Trusting synchronicity and being open to the idea that life often shows us we’re on the right path ... if we’re willing to notice.

It’s not perfect.

It’s not always easy.

But it feels more alive.

And more than anything, I’m learning that boundaries don’t just mean protecting your time or energy from others. They also mean giving yourself the permission to trust, to feel, and to dance.

Your Invitation to Dance

Today, I want to ask you: When was the last time you let yourself dance?

Maybe not literally (although — why not?)

Maybe it’s a deep breath before a meeting.

Maybe it’s trusting your next step, even when you can’t see the whole staircase.

Maybe it’s allowing yourself to feel joy without waiting for everything to be “perfect.”

Let’s be a little more like Breckin this week.

Let’s dance barefoot in the cool night air — pajamas and all. 

You’re doing better than you think. You’re right where you need to be.